I'm pretty sure everyone have been replaced or at least will be replaced in some point in their lives. Most people see themselves being replaced by someone else, supposedly someone better and that it is a pretty bad feeling that you have in your gut but you keep it inside because if you let people know how you feel, you'd feel so vulnerable and lost. It's something people aren't really happy about - being replaced.
For me, I see it in a pretty different way. I look at it as an assurance. When I get replaced, I see how I'm not meant to be in that person's life, it's hard to accept but in a way, it's assuring that that person is having someone better for them. It doesn't mean that you're not good enough. It only means that we are not meant to be in their lives/ they're not meant to be in our lives (maybe because they/we might be poison to the other). I see it in a way that you are sure that the person is happier and found something better in life, that way they move on to do better things in their life. You are very assured that the other person is not in a bad place, it gives you sense of peace, like you don't have to worry anymore. Similarly, you will move on in life as well as exploring the better things in life. My friend once shared that it sucks being replaced but sometimes it's good to be replaced because you realise that you don't really want to be in that place. So why not let someone else take that place, but in other cases, it's different. Especially if you really liked the place you were in.
Even if it may be something out of your comfort zone, but letting things go, accepting how things are and finding happiness is the key. Being selfless and allowing others to be happy when you know that it is the best for them gives you the sense of freedom, it lets you see the light of what it's like to live out of the darkness, rather than being stuck in a room full of miserable thoughts and feelings about how bad things are. For me, it's more about thinking of others and putting others before myself.
Besides, there are more things to life and so much more ahead of us. We shouldn't allow ourselves to be caught up in the moment of sadness and not pick ourselves up and do what has to be done. We can only see what it's like to live in the now, the future is always fuzzy. We can't base what we have now to what is going to happen in the future. They say, even if things are good or bad now, they will change. I always believe that there is bad in good and good in bad. There is always a choice for you if you want to view things differently. It's all about perspective. All these, are things that allow us to grow and experience things in the way we are suppose to. It's about how we look on the brighter side of life and know that everything will be fine eventually.
Same thing as how I see God in my life. God keeps me assured that things aren't as bad as it seems and these things are meant to happen for a reason. I have faith that God has better plans for me, even if things doesn't look great.
I believe that if you look at things not from the bottom of the mountain but from the top, you'd be able to see what beautiful things there are around you and not only to what there is directly in front of you. Think of what God has to offer you. Keep persevering and know that your life has been assured, just keep faith!
Remember: perspective.
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"Think of him who endured such opposition against himself by sinners, so that you may not grow weary in your souls and give up."
-Hebrews 12:3
Dedicated to my best friend.